I have three incredibly good friends who are all in similar life situations, so while not exhaustive, I’ve worked with them to compile a list of tips and tricks of the trade for dating in this brave new world.
Read before you say yes.
The internet makes finding love a breeze. Just type in “how do I begin a dating app” or “how do I get over my hesitation to talk to someone” and you’ll be able to instantly get the answers. But, before that, there’s no point in courting someone without first getting to know them.
So here are a few questions to ask before you say yes to that “double date” you had over brunch.
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1. How do you know this person?
Let’s start at the end. If you’re in a relationship, get your partner’s contact information, and try to figure out how you know this person. How did you meet? Did they send you a friend request on Facebook, email you, or did you run into them at a party? If you don’t know, you really don’t know, and you shouldn’t jump into a relationship without first finding out who you are dealing with.
2. What kind of relationship do you want with this person?
Find this person’s Instagram account, Facebook, Twitter, or Tumblr and analyze their updates to get a sense of what they’re interested in. If you are after a casual hookup, you don’t want them to be posting about their Scientology meetings—that’s not a good sign. Are they looking to marry/start a family? Are they a serial dater looking to date anyone?
If you and your match have conflicting interests, you have no future. It’s better to be honest than to shut the dating world out due to either being a big rule-follower or a “settled” couple.
3. Do you plan on meeting in person?
Let’s face it: You’re a busy person. Don’t date someone if you won’t put aside time to actually meet them. If you meet in person, you have a real chance to judge each other by the way you look and act. It’s a good way to figure out if this is a person that you want to know more about. If, however, you http://www.russianbridesclub.net/hook-up-russian-girls-on-tryst-escort-best-moscow-sex-guide/
Your phone is your best friend.
You may or may not have an account on any of the following apps, but they are all worth a look. With more than 20,000,000 downloads, Tinder might be the simplest, most obvious app, but not everyone who uses it is on the lookout for a relationship. If you are, then it’s worth a look.
There are a variety of features on Match. Users can filter by gender, sexual preference, distance, and other things. The somewhat-odd-looking “Angels” feature looks for people who you think are likely to be dating someone else as well, and can help you get a better sense of whether or not you’re compatible before you make that first move. There are also daily and weekly events on Match that can help you meet new people in the area.
Hinge is more specific than Tinder, in that there’s an option to look for a serious relationship, as well as a partnership. However, Hinge is better for the app-swiping crowd. Hinge is more of a dating site. By including a section for the “serious,” it’s an app that’s probably better suited for the long-term dating crowd.
Pros: Great app for swiping on who you’re interested in—and it’s free.
Cons: It’s primarily for the older crowd, and probably isn’t for the 16 and 17 year olds looking for a casual hookup.
How You Should Use Them
Tinder is probably the most well-known dating app out there, and it’s a good way to start off your dating journey. There are a few key steps you’ll want to take before using Tinder, however.
Put the app on your “wishlist” on your phone and make sure it’s always with you. If you don’t see any eligible matches in the “popular” section when you go to look for a match, you’ll want to swipe right in the “wishlist” and check back again in a few hours. If no one is in the way there, then it should be ready and waiting for you to swipe right and get those matches.
Once you’ve found a match, you’ll want to initiate the communication. Hopefully you’ve got a good bit of